It's been a week and my experience has been mixed.
The Good:
I am happy to have connected and re-connected with some people I dearly treasure, love, and like. Those are my only reasons for accepting or requesting friends on FB, and so far, that seems to be working out well. The party is small and I like it that way.
I can quickly check-up on those people and see what's new.
I can find out interesting things and read up on topics that I might never find otherwise.
I can play games.
The Bad:
The initial notifications drove me up the wall.
You need discipline to ignore links to friends of friends of friends. I think I have this one almost under control.
You need discipline, if you're wordy like I am, to keep it under 420 words. Another reason I don't text very well. (Ian, this is going to cramp my style, indeed!)
You have to resist the time suck, and just walk.away.from.the.keyboard.
The Bizarre:
I have already been blocked by someone who is a mutual friend of some other friends. Not sure why, except that I said something bone-headed almost 5 years ago and had a falling out with her. However, I mean her no harm, and do feel bad that I hurt her feelings many years ago. I guess I am just surprised because I would never contact her to friend her on FB, much less say anything negative on another friend's site she might be commenting on, and therefore find the decision somewhat of an over-reaction.
The Funny:
My husband has declared that he is married to me on his info page, while I have a lot less info on mine. Of course, Facebook asked me to confirm that we are married to each other, which I did after consulting with him. Two people quickly offered him congratulations, which sent me into a fit of giggles. Add to that that two of our mutual friends, who were the photographers at the ceremony and reception back in November 2006, not to mention his brother, have piped in on his wall to add to the surrealism.
12 comments:
I was wondering if you were going to write on your new experience with FB.
I assume you have gone through all of your privacy settings? I set them to Friends only, or only me. I stay away from that friends of friends thing. Silly of that one person with the block, guess they are making a statement lol ;).
I stay with it too, to keep contact with those I care about. It's a funny little FB place there! Nice to c u there.
xx
I have no idea if someone has blocked me - and I wouldn't care anyway... it's just Facebook.
It is fun to connect and reconnect, but I find that most people I have stayed connected to are my computer "penpals".
Most of my good friends will contact me if anything of note is happening eg. all five girlfriends who came out to visit me over the summer - oh what fun we had! Face to face.
I've set the "privacy" (lol) on my account such that very little filters through.
I have found the little X in the top right-had corner of my computer very useful.
And my difficulty with texting was using correct punctuation, spelling and grammar - I've learned to shrtn thngs lol txt me r u ther? LOL
Let's have fun!
xx
oh, I've not blocked you so no worries.
my posts lately are so boring and I know it's a complete reflection of my job. run down.
and there's room for long notes (the notes feature) but it remains a challenge to say much in an environ that encourages people to like something at a click. voice is limited indeedy.
glad to see you here.
-ginab
I'd agree with all of those.
My best experience so far is that, having more or less taken the lead in an after hours pub jam session til 3 in the morning with a group of complete strangers, it was very nice to be able to circulate resulting pics to them.
Being blocked sounds kind of cool. I think I'd make that part of my profile.
I have to say I enjoy Facebook. I have reconnected with so many people and am able to keep up with my RVing friends now that we're not roaming North America any more. I do spend a lot of time on there but I am retired after all!
Hope you enjoy it!
Anne Marie, like Grace, I've set my privacy settings very high, so friends of friends, no they cannot see me or my activities, but I have to say I have FB spells that come in short gasps. Isuppose I treat it mor life a text message centre really! Short as possible just for the connections. Still it's a good place to put pics as Ian says,
I agree it's kind of cool to be locked. How do you know if you have been?
xx
You can't tell you've been locked unless you know that someone has an account and have seen it online, and then notice that it has disappeared when you see a friends list.
In my case, I saw this person in the alphabetical order list of three different mutual friends, including a group picture we took a few years back. Suddenly, her name has vanished, and the link to her account disappears from the photo, although the name remains. She may not even know that I saw it to begin with, and I suppose it's also possible (but unlikely) that she has quit Facebook.
The interesting thing about a block is that it is mutual- I can't see her account or any of her activities, and vice versa, even on other people's accounts- for example, if three people say they like something, only two names will actually appear when you click to find out who they are, so you can see that someone is blocked to you. However, I don't believe it controls non-blocked people's actions, so if another person adds a comment or responds to a question or comment by the blocker, it might look strange to the blocked account because you don't see the first part.
I block game request things on fb all the time. For a while everyone and their brother wanted me to send them some corn or something??? I've never been much for electronic games...I love that a lot of my old students stay in touch with me on fb.
Have a safe weekend!
Hi Anne Marie, sorry about all the typos in my last comment! What a mess! Anyway, I just wanted to let you know I'm off the net for a while. My FB page is deactivated and my blog too. I need to take some time to sort some stuff out, so this is why. I will be back. In the meantime, we still have email!xx
I tend to find Facebook rather boring and quite enjoyable in alternate weeks. I guess I stay with it because it IS an easy way to keep in contact with friends. Oh, and I actually do enjoy using it mobile: posting updates on the way, snapping pictures with the phone and posting them...
Ignore the blocking!
See your friends!
xx
oh this is a good one!
I agree on all points.
When I just joined, a few years ago, I got sucked into the whole joining pages and doing games thing. About two years ago I eliminated all of them, and refuse all and any applications. Whew!
I should really go through and "cull" my friends, as some I barely know and really I just want to keep tabs on the ones I truly care about. But the I think, oh, I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings! Oh the conundrum of it all.
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